Is Internet Dating For The Lazy?

So the Internet rules our lives and we can now buy everything online from clothes to shoes, to groceries and pharmaceuticals, and everything in between. The Internet has fooled us into thinking that everything that comes from there is good, and can be trusted. No one even buys a newspaper anymore, as everyone turns to the Internet as their trusted source for news and information.

Unfortunately, with the explosion of the Internet and all that comes with it, dating sites have popped up all over the place, with each site making it easier for you to find your Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, (whichever one suits your fancy). From sites such as eHarmony to Match.com, your love is just around the corner! All you have to do is log on, pay a small monthly fee, and voila, your Mr. Wonderful will appear on a white horse, with good credit, no kids and pearly white teeth. Aww, if only this dream could come true.

Ladies, unless you are a writer, and can gain from Internet dating mistakes (hint, hint), the only thing that will happen is money and time will be lost by you: never, ever to return. Not only would you have been duped by men in your own hometown, but by men from across the seas as well. Oh, that horrible sinking feeling!

The one thing that your Mr. Wonderful might not be telling you is that, while he is on one site as “Hunglikeastud” saying such things as, “Good morning baby, I see you posted a new picture showing all your twins; wow what size are they?”, he is also signed under username, “Yourwaitinghusband”, who is seeking a wife who will love him and his cute little Labrador forever.

His messages to you then are, “When you become my woman, I will want new pictures from you, again, I don’t want to share you.” He could also be saying to you, “I love your playful nature, so let’s play. You don’t recognize your man when you see him?” He might be on all of the dating sites without your knowledge of course, while you run around, telling all your girlfriends that you have met your husband: finally. It goes without saying that the Internet is a place for quick fixes, impromptu purchases, and must-have items, but should your mate for life also be an impromptu purchase?

“But Sandy, how do you know that all internet dating situations don’t work?” a close friend asked me recently. “I mean, I know of a few ladies who have met some nice men on the internet and they seem quite happy,” she added. “Listen, to each his own,” I replied. “I just know that I have been there and I have done that, and I have learnt my lesson. No thanks!”

In my opinion, finding the right partner for a diva such as yourself should not be left to a source where diapers and dog food are sold, and where porn is the biggest source of entertainment. Why leave your happiness to such an untrustworthy tool as the internet? It is clouded with so much information that it cannot possibly get your wishes correct.

Can you really believe the photo in front of you on your computer screen is really who you are speaking to? With the quick change of a photo, your “Mr. Hot stuff” could really be a nerd with big teeth, an overbite, and hair coming out of his ears and nose, and a toupee on his head.

You should feel attracted to your partner, not only intellectually, but also physically as well. Married men, and also men supposedly in a committed relationship, often use the Internet to cheat on their partners. Unless you signed up for this willingly and have signed up with Ashley Madison, the cheating dating site, why be a part of a hurtful situation unknowingly?

As Peter Steiner famously wrote, “On the Internet, nobody knows that you are a dog.”

Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: womanincontrol@facebook.com, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email: thesinglegirlspot@gmail.com.