Choosing A Partner Is A Major Decision!

Bill Maher once said, “Women cannot complain about men anymore until they start getting better taste in them.” Truer words have never been spoken, as I truly believe that   men tend to date, and women only have relationships. Acquiring a better taste in our choice of partners will more than likely save us from many heartaches and relationship woes. Often times when a woman finds herself in an intimate situation with a man, she immediately considers that to be a new relationship.

Not so fast for the fellas however! Have you ever seen an episode of the Maury Povich show as he proudly and shamefully declares, “You are not the father”? The young lady usually runs off the stage, hits the dust and wails like a wounded animal in the woods, as shame and embarrassment overwhelms her, while the fella does his little “happy dance.”

Do these ladies not understand that “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” as author John Gray wrote in his widely popular book? A man will date you, your friend and your mother before he decides in his mind that you are, “the one.” Women however fall head over heels in love, pregnant in their minds with your baby; have built the big house with the white picket fence the second that they get a taste of, “de big wad between a man’s legs.”

Women need to open up their horizons, wade through their choices and then with a clear mind, decide who their partner should be. More easily said than done of course as the second a woman is observed as dating a, “a few good men”, she is labeled as a slut or a whore. No one to take home to your mama! Dating more than one man at a time allows you to choose from the crop, and choose the one best suited for you.

As my mother used to say, “Give a man a man a likkle piece of rope to play with, tie de noose tight but don’t choke him. If he sinks to the bottom he is probably not good for you. If however, he rises to the top above de rest, like a pudding ina de oven, he is yours to keep!” My mother bwoy! The things I heard while growing up! However, I don’t think that she knew that I was eavesdropping on her conversations, even when she spoke to her girlfriends in “gypsy” as she called it.

A man who knows that you are seeing another man should be envious of the time spent with others. As your objective here is to be, “the one and only,” and really find your true love, you should not settle for anything less. Too often women will fall for the old, “I am just seeing where this is going,” statement from a man. This statement should definitely be viewed as a major red flag, as this indicates that his intentions for you might not be the best.

He should know what his true intentions are from the beginning, as you are of yours. Wasting your time and his is not allowed. However ladies, really do go out with others if you say that you are. Leave the girlfriends alone for a few nights and truly go out with, “the hot guy from down the street.” Who knows where it might lead? If your knight in shining amour sees you with the buffed bodied man from the gym, and his feelings are true, he will know what to do.

He will rise to cream of the crop and make you his. Women should also learn to have fun while dating, just as much as the guys do. However, the ultimate prize, the big cherry on top, the big kahuna, should be kept for the one who rises to the top, or at least the ones who almost made the pudding pie shape.

Women should view their bodies as temples of God, something to be cherished, a prized possession for very few to see and behold. Trust me, when him get a “likkle piece” as they say, your prince charming will be more than appreciative of the sweet, rarely abused gift you have given to him! Therefore choose wisely, in order to remain in control of your life.

Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: womanincontrol@facebook.com, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email: thesinglegirlspot@gmail.com.