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How Far Would You Go To Find Your Soul Mate?

How Far Would You Go To Find Your Soul Mate?

Okay, so another dreaded Valentine’s Day is almost upon us and romance of course is in the air.  For many single ladies, it is a day that many would rather soon forget, as they are left with that stinking reality that once again they are alone on a Valentine’s Day with no Mr. Right by their side.

I myself have been in such a state in the past, with only a plate of tuna and rice for dinner, and not with a hot lover at an exclusive, fancy restaurant. Not that I could not afford a much better selection of food, but I could not muster up the effort to really care about what I ate at home alone as I watched another chick flick, all by my lonesome.

This begs me to ask the question, how far would you go to find your soul mate? To be honest with you, I often wonder if there is such a thing. Can anyone be your soul mate or is there only one person that you are truly meant to be with? My girlfriend Monique would always ask, “Why aren’t you out with someone, on a date or something?”

“I just can’t find the right one,” I would reply.

“So what if he is not the right one?” she would query. “At least if you have a likkle man on the side, at least he would have been able to take you out for dinner or something. You can’t be so darn picky Sandy,” she would scornfully add.

She was not the only one who cursed and laughed at me every Valentine’s night that I was alone. Another friend of mine sent me a text once and could not believe, as he stated  that I was “Man-less on Valentine’s night.” Trust me, I had no desire nor wish to be watching CNN and eating tuna on a Valentine’s night, but I like many other single ladies, seemingly do not care anymore. Many, like myself, truly believe that one does not have to search for one’s soul mate. If he is meant for you he will appear at your doorsteps.

The thing is though, although I do have dating prospects in front of me, I am so darn picky that I just cannot, “Just go out with anyone”, as my friends suggest. I have to find someone in my opinion that I like as much as they like me. I like to have my feelings reciprocated. Am I going to die alone, with no one by my side? I would not allow that.

I have never been one to date a lot of people at the same time, as I like to focus on one person at a time, but obviously that was not working. I had to switch my tactics. I honestly do not wish to end up all alone like a dried-up old prune, and then for sure no one is going to want me. I will date, date a little more and then still date some more.

Don’t get me wrong, it does not mean that I will be out on the town every night, it just means that this nonsense has to stop. So what if I have been hurt in the past? Being hurt and able to move on shows strength and courage! It just means that I acknowledge the pain and will still move forward. I will also put it all in God’s hands and believe that he knows best. The lord up above will send me the person that I need to be with when he is ready to do so.

My friends keep telling me to never give up on either love or life. I totally agree with them, as life as well as Valentine’s Day, is meant to be shared with others. As Thomas Merton once wrote, “Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone – we find it with another.”

Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: womanincontrol@facebook.com, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email: thesinglegirlspot@gmail.com.

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