A Woman’s Worth: Are Women Selling Themselves Short?

Have you ever noticed the relationship that men have with money? How much they value the dollars in their pockets and what it allows them to buy? Do you notice the way they drive off in the fast, new Mercedes or Jeep, making sure that it is squeaky clean, and that nothing messes up their pretty little rims?

Have you ever seen the look on their faces when you accidentally scratch their favourite cd or slam their car doors supposedly too hard? The point of all of this is that men only understand and try to hold onto things of value. Now, each person has his own sense of value, and he might not see you as someone to value.

However, it really and truly does not matter if he values you. You have to place the value on yourself. Now, let’s say that the guy that you like has shown some interest. Think of yourself as an expensive car! Before you even let him get a sniff or taste, whichever is your fancy, of the juicy center between your legs, make sure that he knows what he is really getting.

I know, the thought of making love to your sexy new dude is overwhelming, but you must show restraint. You know the saying that your mother or older girlfriends told you that you should “make him work for it”? Go one step further and make him pay for it! In other words, show your real worth.

We all know that women’s liberation has changed a lot for us ladies, but one thing will never change—and although there are a lot of good things that have transpired since those days—is that men love a chase. If they have to work hard for you, they somehow see you as being of value.

They now have a stake in you; in their minds of course. Please remember however, that he does not own you and has no claim whatsoever on you, so if ever you wish to leave the relationship, for whatever reason, then leave.

However, let him continue to be the man that he should be, by paying for the things that he needs to. If you go out to dinner the first few times, don’t you dare come out of your pocket or go Dutch.  If he cannot afford to take you to a nice restaurant the first few times on his dime, then sit your happy little single butt at home and read a book!

Going to McDonald’s or Taco Bell should not be okay for you on your first few dates. If he ever becomes your boyfriend in the future, that however is a different situation.

A man’s job is to be a man, and to show you why you should even think about being with him. If he cannot afford to take you out to that nice restaurant on those first few dates, if it means anything to him, he will work as hard as he can in order to take you out. Working overtime at his job is not an issue.

Now, he should not steal for you, but he should feel as if he has lost a lot if he does not have you. His happy little behind will do anything, apart from stealing, to be able to afford the girl of his dreams—you. We all know that you can take care of yourself, but that is not the point here.

The point is that if he wants you, he needs to work hard to get and keep you. Don’t let him off the hook by lowering your standards by feeling sorry for him. He needs to earn you and care for you, just as he does his shiny new Mercedes or Bugatti, with the brand new rims!

Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: womanincontrol@facebook.com, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email:thesinglegirlspot@gmail.com.