Should You Date Other Races?

By Sandy Daley

Friedrich Nietzsche once eloquently said, “When a woman becomes a scholar there is usually something wrong with her sexual organs.” His words definitely hit a nail on the head for many women who are without a husband, partner or significant other; while each day their biological clocks tick feverishly away.

What is a poor, educated, worldly, cosmopolitan Black woman to do? Roll over and play dead? Succumb to the words of her friends and date anyone? Or perhaps she should date other races, hence increasing her chances of finding her very own Mr. Wonderful?

Such is the plight of my good friend Michelle! She walks with confidence, and her job as a stockbroker in the city is secure; with benefits and a great portfolio to match. Her apartment is filled with the nicest of things; art décor and furniture for which one would die.

She vacations in the South of France, with wealthy friends with manicured dogs and pricey jewels. Yet, she is not happy because there is no man by her side. In the business-world, Michelle is a success, with a six-figure salary and a high rise apartment.

At thirty-five, her biological clock is ticking fast and her dreams of being a wife to a good man seems to be fading in the dark, as the days go by without a wedding ring on her finger. Being a success in the business world is not enough for her mother, who looks at her with all her accomplishments, as somewhat of a failure. “When are you going to find a husband Michelle?” her mother asks her over and over again.

“Why are you so picky, so difficult? What exactly are you looking for in a husband? You are going to continue being so picky that you will end up with no one. Find a man and learn to love him! What good is your money if there is no-one to love you while you have it? It is your fault for not having a man!”

Michelle smiled to herself and replied, inwardly of course, “I do know what I want. He has just not appeared as yet.” Sound familiar?

My advice to Michelle and others like her? Date a variety of men from all different backgrounds, in order to truly maximize your chances of finding a mate. That includes Caucasian men, Asian men, African men; every type of man that you can find on the face of this earth. Look at it this way: our Black men are already dating every colour, creed, nationality and race in the book, so why not us?

Unless, of course, you wish to have a life such as Michelle’s with a huge bank account, beautiful clothes and shoes to wear, a choice of anywhere in this world to vacation, and no one with whom to share your wealth or success, or children to whom your legacy could be passed.

I figured not! Get out there and date as if your life depended on it! At the end of the day, you, Michelle and all the other educated but ‘manless’ ladies can truly say that you indeed did give it your all – if it is in the ‘cards’ for you, it will certainly happen. I mean what is the worst thing that can happen? Not a darn thing I say! Of what are you afraid?

Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: womanincontrol@facebook.com, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email:thesinglegirlspot@gmail.com.