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Valentine’s Day And The Single Girl: How To Survive The Dreaded Day!

Valentine’s Day And The Single Girl: How To Survive The Dreaded Day!

By Sandy Daley

So the ever-dreaded Valentine’s Day is almost upon us, and for a single girl, that is the day that you almost wish to never wake up. From the constant badgering from your mom as to, “when were you going to find a nice young man with whom to settle down, in order to give her grandchildren,” to your annoying girlfriends, who “cannot wait to spend the time with their significant others.” It’s almost enough to lead one to the bottle!

However, do not despair my single gals, as auntie Sandy is here to help you get over the Valentine’s Day blues, and will not allow you to hit your girlfriend over the head with a bottle because you are so jealous, and she is oh so annoying with her new boyfriend crap! It may be depressing, yes I know my lovelies, but here are some tips to get over the chocolatey, Victoria Secret, roses are red, violets are blue, will you be my lover too, season!

Tip number one: Throw a party for you and your single girlfriends. Nothing beats the Valentine’s blues like a party – the more impromptu the better. Why be sad and alone on such a day? Trust me, you are not the only one in this world who will be without a man on this day, so get a bunch of your girlfriends together, order in some amazing food, along with your favourite bottles or wine and spirits, and have a ball at your place or someone else’s. Also, dress to the nines’ as if your life depended on it! Only the sexiest dress will do, as you remind yourself and others that you are a great catch, filled with inner beauty, class and the exotic beauty of any Miss Universe contestant. Kaci Fennell has got nothing on you! The one thing that I am quite certain of is that confidence begins with you, and whatever you believe will manifest itself.

The next thing to do is to begin to plan for your Mr. Right who will be in your life by next year. Plan for the new year ahead! Valentine’s Day is a definite reminder that a new year is still upon us, and looking back on the failures that occurred in the past, is not the way to move ahead progressively, with positive changes. So what if you spent last year all alone? This is a new year and anything can change on a dime! So be open to new things and to new experiences; that includes perhaps meeting your perfect Mr. Right!

Last but not least, enjoy the day and be thankful for what you have! Many times we look at the things that we do not have, i.e. a partner, a boyfriend or even a husband, and we forget to be thankful for the things that God has done for us thus far. Be patient, as the right man will come along! So, enjoy your single status until things change. Being content with one’s self, especially at this time, will allow you to be more appreciative of everything else when things do change.

The fact that you do not have a partner should not be seen as a strike against you, no matter what your mother says! View it as more time to appreciate yourself without having to please others. In order to truly appreciate yourself, you must fully understand what makes you tick, and only by time spent alone will that be accomplished.

“So Sandy, are you saying that I must not want to find myself a man?” my friend Julie asked me once. “No, that is not what I am saying my dear,” I replied. “The thing is, true love really begins with loving yourself and only when you accomplish this, will you be able to love someone else,” I added.

I think that she got the point! So, my single friends, enjoy Valentine’s Day without feeling depressed, as your day is surely around the corner!

Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: womanincontrol@facebook.com, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email:thesinglegirlspot@gmail.com.

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