Are You A Controller?

By Ettie Rutherford
Contributing Columnist

Some time ago, when discussing the challenges that the pandemic had brought on our lives, a psychiatrist remarked that one of the worst realities was, that people were mourning the loss of control, because every decision to be made was based, entirely, on the latest news, regarding the virus.

Never was it more obvious that the loss of control can be so easily overpowering, because very few realized the many facets of their lives that were dependent on factors, of which they were not even aware. It was through trial and error that the need for control was made evident.

This lack of control has forced individuals, families and businesses not only to realize the facets that dictate everyday living, but have also brought about the realization that it is best to:

1. Focus on small changes, so that control will be easier. If not, there will be too much frustration or resistance.
2. Learn to accept imperfections in order to be more effective, even though not everything will be under your control.
3. Look at progress and achievements, instead of worrying about what is out of your control.
4. Appreciate the new paths that you have taken, because you were not in complete control.
5. Accept what you are able to, and not see the lack of complete control as a weakness. And
6. Let go of the attitude to have perfection in everything, so that complete control will not be expected.

Not unlike the sudden loss of electricity in the home, can it really be seen that we have never really had control over our many gadgets and that there is really no need to be able to control every facet of everything in your house. As a matter of fact, it can sometimes be a burden when others expect you to be the “control person”, who is expected to have all the answers.

So, trust that the Creator is guiding you and that It will send you divine assistance, when making the right decisions, even if you are not “on top” of every situation.

So, let go, and let someone else “take the reins”.

In Sisterhood!
Ettie
Award-winning Ettie Rutherford, B.Ed, Dip.Ed, M.Ed, is an educator, life coach, consultant and author of “Why Perch Like A Chick When You Can Soar Like An Eagle?”. An accomplished public speaker, Ettie is the Founder and CEO of Women Are Worthy, which provides step-by-step strategies for women to achieve their goals, with a minimum amount of stress. She can be reached at ettie@womenrworthy.com