Abraham Lincoln once said, “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” Unfortunately, many a times the only “fake” power or control that a man has in his life is over his wife, partner or girlfriend. The question of “whose is it?” has been around for a long time and it is the cornerstone of many relationships.
However, have you ever asked yourself, why does your man wish to know if your God-given private parts belong to him, and him only? What do you say to that same man when he asks you that same question, even after a break-up? What is the correct response? Should you then allow any human being to stake some claim on your private parts, and on your life? Can you?
Men will ask you that question for one simple reason; control. It really has nothing to do with their love for you! In their minds, once they have control of your private parts, many believe that they now will have control of you, your comings and goings, and your wishes, dreams and your desires.
Unfortunately, even after a break-up, no matter the reason for the break-up, they do believe that you and your private area belong to them. So, this is what you do to figure out what your Mr. Wonderful really wants from you. Whenever he asks you that question, do not be offended and turned off by his bluntness, but first you must remember where this question is coming from.
His need to be the conqueror of his domain permeates through his veins and there is nothing that you can do about that aspect of a man. Anytime that a man asks you, “Is it mine baby?” answer him in the sexiest voice that you can, no matter where you are, “Yours, baby! You know that it belongs to you and only you. Unfortunately, I cannot concentrate on you right now as the phone company is threatening to cut off my phone for non-payment, and I am just a little worried right now. I just have to deal with this issue!”
Now, this may seem like such a game to you and of course very deceitful: but there is a “method to my madness”, as they say. If his first response to you is, “Sorry to hear that but I am only calling to shoot the breeze,” then you know that he is not the right man for you.
However, if he says to you, “Crap! How much do you owe and when do you have to pay it by?” Or even, “How much of it do you have already?”, then you know that he is worth giving a chance. You really do not want anything from him, and you should not accept it if he offers (if you are not his girlfriend or steady partner already), but you are just testing him. His answer will tell you many things about his true intentions for you.
Either answer tells you exactly what he has in his mind. If he cares about you at all, and not only your private parts, then your problems should be of his concern. If he doesn’t feel sorry for your plight and just wishes to talk to you during the good times, run as far away from him as you possibly can. If he is worth keeping, it should not matter to him whether or not you are intimate with him. He should not be trying to control you with money, or material things in order to keep you. Use the power of your brain, not your private parts, to figure out what is best for you.
If you play your cards right, you don’t ever have to give yourself to someone who does not deserve you. In order to place a man in the true “category” that he belongs in, being smart and in control of your emotions, will go a long way. The objective here is to save you the time and lots of heartache in the long run. If a man really wants to stick around, there is nothing that he will not do for you. Test him and you will get the answers that you need!
Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: firstname.lastname@example.org, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email: email@example.com.