By Sandy Daley
Susan B. Anthony very wisely wrote, “I think the girl who is able to earn her own living and pay her own way should be as happy as anybody on earth. The sense of independence and security is very sweet.” Wiser words have never been spoken, as an independent mind and spirit is one that can never be broken, regardless of what challenges you may face.
Do you consider yourself to be an independent woman? Are you able to face the road alone, no matter how bleak, dark and desolate it may get in the years to come? Are you able to look at each problem with a steadfast head and hand? I myself, with all the challenges that I have and continue to face, would certainly consider myself to be one. Of course no one is perfect, and there are days that challenge my resolute stand, but with each struggle that comes my way, with each battle that I must face, I do so with the knowledge that I am equipped with the powers to handle each situation on my own.
That, I believe is the key to being independent. The knowledge that yes, you are human, yes, you may fail at things that you try, and yes you may and will screw up once in a while; if not often. However, once you acknowledge the situation in front of you, and realize that each problem, strife or mess-up must be handled, you, as an independent woman can actually do it on your own.
You may not get it right the first, second, third or even fifth try, but gosh darn it, you are certainly not going to buckle down on the ground and cry like a baby. Instead, you will put on your big girl panties and handle the situation. Now, the thing is, we all have friends, or frenemies, or even family members who will assume that we may not be “big enough” to make it on our own. Nevertheless, we must certainly try to show them that we can, not because we have to prove anything to anyone, as we should look only to ourselves for approval and acceptance. We do this in order to boost our own self-esteem.
“But Sandy, yu mean fi tell me that you have always been this confident about yourself,” my girlfriend Natasha once asked. “Really and truly, you always seem so sure about yourself.”
“Yu must be mad,” I quickly answered. “Girl, when I was in my late teens and early twenties, I could hardly look someone straight in the eye if I was speaking to them. It’s only because of my life experiences, trials, tribulations and affirmations that I am now able to stand in front of you as this confident woman. I know myself now, and it takes time,” I added.
So, give yourself the time ladies, and you will certainly be able to throw your hat into the air one day on a very busy street, similar to Mary Tyler Moore as she did in her popular television show, which ran from 1970 thru till 1977. Rome was not built in one day my darlings!
Sandy Daley is a columnist, radio and television personality and actress. She is also the author of “Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” She can be contacted at: Website: www.sandydaley.com, Facebook: firstname.lastname@example.org, Twitter: twitter.com/whosevaginaisit and/or Email:email@example.com.